Stop Talking Sh*t to Yourself!

We’ve all done it. Made a mistake or failed at something and thought, “I’m so stupid,” or “I’ll never get this right.” Maybe you’ve looked in the mirror and silently muttered, “I’m not good enough.” Negative self-talk might feel harmless, but it’s not. The truth is, when you talk sh*t to yourself, you’re doing more damage than you realize.

Let’s break it down.

How Negative Self-Talk Hurts You

1. It Holds You Back

Negative thoughts are like a heavy backpack. Every time you think to yourself, “I can’t do this” or “I’ll never be good enough” or "I'll never be ________," you’re adding weight to that bag. Over time, it becomes harder to move forward. Those thoughts stop you from trying new things taking risks that could lead to success and generally just deplete your happiness.

2. It Increases Stress

When criticizing yourself, your brain thinks you’re in danger. This triggers stress hormones like cortisol to flood your body. While some stress is normal, too much can make you feel anxious, overwhelmed, or even physically sick.

3. It Hurts Your Health

Speaking of feeling sick - negative self-talk can take a toll on your body. High stress levels can lead to headaches, stomach problems, poor sleep, and even a weakened immune system. You’re not just hurting your feelings; you’re hurting your health.

4. It Blinds You to Opportunities

When your inner voice is always pointing out flaws, it’s hard to see the good around you. Opportunities to grow, the ability to connect with others, or improve your situation might pass you by because you’re too focused on the negative, what’s wrong.

5. It Pushes People Away

If you’re always putting yourself down, even just in your thoughts, this energy can make others uncomfortable or unsure how to support you. Over time, this can create distance between you and the people who care about you.

Why Do We Do It?

Negative self-talk often comes from fear, feeling of less than, past experiences, or perfectionism. Maybe someone once told you that you weren’t good enough, and now you believe it. Or you’re afraid of failing, so you try to protect yourself by lowering your expectations.

But here’s the thing: those thoughts aren’t facts. They’re just stories you’ve told yourself - and they can be rewritten.

How to Stop Talking Sh*t to Yourself

1. Notice the Pattern

Start by paying attention to your inner voice. Write down the negative things you say to yourself throughout the day. Seeing them on paper can help you realize just how often it happens - and how unfair those thoughts are.

2. Challenge the Thoughts

Ask yourself: “Is this true?” or “Would I say this to my best friend?” Chances are, the answer is no. We're going to teach you here in this blog to replace the negative thought with something kinder!

Here's what I know for you in this moment; You are enough, you are brilliant, you are beautiful, you have gifts ONLY YOU have to share with the world! You deserve every wholeness, health, wealth and happiness!

3. Practice Gratitude

When you focus on what’s going right, it’s harder for negativity to take over. Each day, write down three things you’re grateful for. They don’t have to be big - just things that make you smile.

4. Talk to Yourself Like a Friend

Imagine someone you love felt insecure. What would you say to them? Now, say that to yourself. You deserve the same compassion you give others.

5. Surround Yourself with Positivity

Spend time with people who lift you up and believe in you (you can't soar with the eagles if you're hanging out with the turkeys!) Read or listen to things that inspire you. The more positivity you let in, the less room there is for self-doubt.

The Power of Being Kind to Yourself

When you stop talking sh*t to yourself, amazing things happen. You start to feel lighter, more confident, and open to opportunities. Your health improves, your relationships get stronger, and you become someone who inspires others.

It’s not always easy to silence that inner critic, but it’s worth it. Start small. Catch yourself in the act, reframe the thought (we're going to help you with that in our next blog article, make sure you hit the subscribe button), and give yourself a break.

You are capable. You are worthy. And you deserve a voice in your head that cheers you on - not one that tears you down. How you think and what you believe is the single most important piece of attracting happiness, health and wealth in your life!

So, next time you catch yourself thinking something negative, stop. Take a breath. And remind yourself: “I’ve got this.”

What kind of things do you say to yourself? How can you start being kinder to yourself? Let’s talk about it in the comments.