STOP CHASING SOMEONE THAT HAS ALREADY LEFT
You may not have control over someone else’s choices, a company’s decisions, or how life unfolds, but you do have control over yourself. True power lies in recognizing what you can control and letting go of the rest.
We’ve all been there - holding onto something or someone that’s no longer ours. Whether it’s a relationship, a job promotion, a dream that didn’t pan out, or an opportunity that’s slipped through our fingers, the temptation to chase what’s already gone can feel overwhelming.
But here’s the hard truth: chasing after something - or someone - that has already left is like running toward a door that’s already closed. You’re expending energy on something you can’t change, instead of standing in your power and moving forward.
Why We Chase
Chasing is often rooted in fear.
- Fear of letting go.
- Fear of the unknown.
- Fear of admitting that something we wanted didn’t work out.
We tell ourselves stories to justify the chase: "If I try harder, I can fix this." "If I just hold on a little longer, things will change." "If I don’t chase, I’ll miss out on something amazing."
But the reality is, chasing doesn’t lead to fulfillment. It leads to exhaustion, self-doubt, and a sense of powerlessness.
Standing in Your Power
You may not have control over someone else’s choices, a company’s decisions, or how life unfolds, but you do have control over yourself. True power lies in recognizing what you can control and letting go of the rest. Here’s how:
- Accept What Is
Acceptance doesn’t mean you’re okay with what happened - it means you acknowledge reality without fighting it. It’s the first step toward reclaiming your energy and focus.
- Shift the Focus to Yourself
Instead of chasing, turn inward. What do you need? What goals can you set for yourself? Standing in your power means recognizing that your happiness and success are not dependent on external circumstances.
- Let Go Gracefully
Letting go isn’t easy, but clinging to what’s already gone only keeps you stuck. Release with grace and gratitude for the lessons learned, and open yourself up to what’s next.
- Redefine Your Worth
Your worth isn’t determined by someone else’s opinion, a missed opportunity, or a perceived failure. Remind yourself that you are valuable, capable, and deserving of new possibilities.
- Embrace the Unknown
Letting go often means stepping into the unknown, and that can feel scary. But the unknown is also where growth, opportunity, and new beginnings live.
The Freedom of Letting Go
When you stop chasing what’s already left, you free yourself from the chains of the past. You give yourself permission to grow, to evolve, and to welcome new opportunities. You become a creator of your own destiny instead of a victim of circumstances.
Imagine how much lighter you’d feel if you stopped carrying the weight of what’s no longer yours. Imagine what you could accomplish if you redirected that energy toward building the life you want.
The Choice is Yours
You can’t control whether someone stays or goes. You can’t rewrite the past or force an opportunity to come back. But you can choose to stop chasing, to stand in your power, and to focus on the one thing you’ll always have control over: yourself.
Stop running after closed doors. Turn around and look at the wide-open ones waiting for you.
Jeff Hammer is a Mindset Architect and founder of DominatingEdge.com, dedicated to helping individuals break free from limiting beliefs and achieve their highest potential.
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